When you are raising a child with someone you are not married to, you might wonder how custody laws apply to your family. Many unmarried parents assume that the rules apply differently to them than to married couples.
While North Carolina does treat unmarried parents slightly differently at first, the differences mainly relate to establishing legal parenthood rather than determining custody itself.
North Carolina Child Custody Laws for Unmarried Parents
Courts make all custody decisions based on the best interests of the child. North Carolina law treats mothers and fathers equally when making custody decisions, but only after both parents have established their legal relationship to the child.
That requirement affects unmarried parents more than married parents because marriage creates an automatic legal presumption that the husband is the father of any child born during the marriage.
For unmarried parents, no such automatic presumption exists. The mother’s parental rights begin immediately at birth, but the father must take specific legal steps to establish his parental rights. Once paternity is legally established, North Carolina custody laws for unmarried parents work the same way they do for married or divorced parents.
Who Has Primary Custody When Parents Aren’t Married?
Until paternity is legally established, the mother has sole custody rights to a child born outside of marriage. That means she can make all decisions about the child’s care without consulting the father. She can also refuse to allow the father to see the child.
Automatic maternal custody does not reflect any judgment about who would be the better parent. Rather, it exists because the mother’s biological relationship to the child is certain from birth, while the father’s relationship must be legally proven. The law needs a clear starting point for who has authority over the child, and maternal custody provides that clarity.
Once a father establishes paternity, he gains the same parental rights and obligations as the mother. At that point, neither parent automatically has more rights than the other.
If the parents cannot agree on custody arrangements, either parent may request that the court establish a formal custody order. The court may grant joint custody, primary custody to one parent with visitation for the other, or (in rare cases) sole custody to one parent.
How Do Unmarried Parents Establish Paternity in North Carolina?
Establishing paternity creates the legal father-child relationship that gives unmarried fathers custody rights. North Carolina offers several options for establishing paternity.
The simplest method happens at the hospital when a child is born. Both parents can sign an affidavit of parentage, which creates a legal presumption of paternity. The document is filed with the state and gives the father’s name legal recognition. However, signing the affidavit of parentage at the hospital is voluntary, and some parents may not take that step.
If parents do not establish paternity at birth, they can sign an affidavit of parentage later. The affidavits are available through the North Carolina Department of Health and Human Services. Once both parents sign and the document is filed correctly, it has the same legal effect as a court order establishing paternity.
When parents disagree about paternity or one parent will not cooperate with voluntary establishment, court action becomes necessary. Either parent can file a paternity action, asking the court to determine who is the child’s legal father. The mother, the presumed father, or even the child (through a guardian) can file this type of case. In court paternity cases, genetic testing usually provides proof of the biological relationship.
Once the court establishes paternity, the father becomes legally responsible for child support. He also gains the right to seek custody or visitation, participate in decisions about the child’s upbringing, and maintain a legal relationship with his child.
FAQs in North Carolina Child Custody Cases
Unmarried parents often have questions about how child custody in NC for unmarried parents works in practice. Here are basic answers to some of the most common concerns.
Can I File for Custody Even If the Mother and I Were Never in a Relationship?
Yes. Your custody rights do not depend on your relationship with the mother. Once you establish paternity, you have the same right to seek custody or visitation as any other parent.
Can an Unmarried Parent Request Child Support?
Both parents have a legal obligation to financially support their children. Once paternity is established, the parent with primary physical custody can request child support from the other parent. Even parents who share time with the child relatively equally may have support obligations if their incomes differ significantly.
Does the Mother Always Get Primary Custody of the Child?
While mothers have sole custody before paternity is established, that can change once the father’s legal rights are recognized. North Carolina law requires courts to make custody decisions without considering either parent’s gender.
What Is the Difference Between Establishing Paternity and Legitimizing a Child?
North Carolina law does not use the term “legitimation.” Our state simply requires establishing paternity, which creates the full legal parent-child relationship. Once paternity is established, children born to unmarried parents have precisely the same legal rights as children born to married parents, including inheritance rights and the right to financial support.
Will a Father Be Responsible for Child Support Once Paternity Is Established?
Once paternity is established, fathers gain custody and visitation rights but also become legally obligated to provide financial support for their children. Child support obligations typically continue until the child turns 18 or graduates from high school, whichever comes later.
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