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Child Custody Laws for Unmarried Parents in North Carolina

Caulder & Valentine Law Firm, PLLC | January 20, 2026 | Child Custody

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When you are raising a child with someone you are not married to, you might wonder how custody laws apply to your family. Many unmarried parents assume that the rules apply differently to them than to married couples. While North Carolina does treat unmarried parents slightly differently at first, the differences mainly relate to establishing…

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Child Custody Laws for Unmarried Parents in North Carolina