Divorce is not an easy process and you should not have to go through it alone. If you have any questions about child custody, property division, or alimony after a divorce, talk to your North Carolina family law attorneys for help.
Making One Reconsider a Divorce
Most separations and divorces involve a lot of second-guessing, putting off asking for a divorce, or changing feelings about the future of the relationship. These changes in the way you feel can also be seasonal when holidays like Christmas make people think of better times and the family coming together.
North Carolina's one-year separation requirement for divorce does not allow anyone to rush into divorce. Over the period of a full year of living apart, each spouse can get a good idea of what life will be like after a divorce becomes final. Living separately and apart requires living in a different residence. Even if romantic feelings do come up during the separation, “isolated incidents of sexual intercourse between the parties shall not toll the statutory period required for divorce predicated on separation of one year.”
However, some people have the opposite reaction after the holiday. Like New Year's Eve or a spouse's birthday, a partner may be expecting their other half to pull out all the stops and go above and beyond with a big hearted gesture. If the other person fails to meet these expectations, the spouse may feel like this is another sign that there is a problem with the relationship.
Getting Through Holidays After a Divorce
Being single again after a divorce can make you feel alone, especially around holidays. After seeing stores and co-workers' desks filled with heart-shaped balloons, flowers, cards, and boxes of chocolates, everything seems focused on couples.
For many people, the best option is to keep busy. This could include going to the gym, taking a night class, or even catching up on work. For others, it can be an opportunity to pamper themselves, like going for a spa day, buying themselves flowers, or splurge on a gift.
Thinking of others can also help take the sting out of being single. Parents can even start a new family tradition of spending special time with their kids. Volunteering at a church event or animal shelter can help you remember all the positive things you have going on instead of focusing on what is missing.
North Carolina Divorce Lawyers
If you have any questions about filing for divorce in North Carolina, contact the Caulder & Valentine Law Firm, PLLC. Contact us online or by phone at 704-470-2440 today for a consultation.