Getting Back In Mental And Physical Shape After A Separation

Separation and divorce are recognized as the “second most stressful life events a person can experience, second only to the death of a spouse.” This stress can have profound effects on one's physical and mental health. 

Mentally, you might experience feelings of depression and anxiety, find yourself isolating, act out in destructive ways, have intrusive thoughts, or feel a sense of hopelessness. You may even start to neglect your physical health too. To help bring back an overall sense of mental and physical well-being, here are few things you can do to get back in shape.


Not only will exercise help to control your appetite and burn calories, it's also a great way to release divorce stress and build back your confidence. Through exercise, you can release stressful emotions through movement and start to feel the effects of endorphins in your body. Endorphins are naturally occurring “happy” chemicals associated with stabilizing your mood, battling depression, and generally feeling better. 

Make New Friends

You can also use exercise as a way to get outside and make new friends. By joining exercise clubs and sports groups, you'll meet a group of like-minded people to hold you accountable for your fitness goals. You can also begin to establish new friendships as you feel the wonderful effects of fresh air, sunshine, and exercise on your body. 

Get Counseling 

Friends are great when you need a shoulder to cry on; but to get through the emotional fallout from a divorce, it's better to talk with a professional therapist or advisor. Therapists can help you deal with the physical, mental, and financial demands of divorce. They can also arm you with the skills and perspective you need to get through the process.

Start Dating

Flattering attention from someone new is a great way to build confidence after a divorce. It can also help to replenish your social network. You may not be ready to find your soulmate, but spending time with someone whose company you enjoy might be just what you need to get out of your divorce slump. 

Rediscover Yourself

Though divorce is rough, it offers an opportunity to rediscover old interests that you may have left behind during your marriage. Take a class, explore a pressing curiosity, or decide to learn something new. Rediscovering an old passion or finding a new one can go a long way in helping you to rebuild your life after a separation. 

Hire Great Legal Counsel

Divorce can be a tumultuous time for all parties involved, but it can feel even worse if you don't have an experienced lawyer by your side. 

If you need help navigating the ins and outs of your divorce, Caulder and Valentine can help. Call our office at (704)470-2440 or contact us to schedule a private divorce consultation today.